If you're lying awake at night asking "do I stay or do I go," you don't need to decide that today — and you don't need to commit to months of couples therapy to find out.
I'm a licensed, PhD-level trauma therapist trained in Discernment Counseling — a structured, short-term process for couples where one partner is leaning toward staying and the other is leaning toward leaving.
Traditional couples therapy assumes both partners want to work on the relationship. Discernment Counseling doesn't make that assumption — and that's exactly why it works for "mixed-agenda" couples, where traditional therapy often stalls or backfires.
I meet separately and together with each of you to understand what's happened, your part in it, and what you each genuinely want — without pressure to reconcile, and without a hidden agenda to save the marriage.
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If more than one of these sounds familiar, discernment may be the step you need before anything else.
Discernment Counseling isn't open-ended. It's built around reaching one of three outcomes, together.
Time to hear each of you, separately and together.
After every session, whether to book the next. No pressure — by design.
Most couples reach clarity within one to five sessions
The couples who end up in discernment are very often navigating infidelity, betrayal, or a trauma history that's made trust — and clarity — feel impossible.
Sometimes the nervous system has been in survival mode for so long that "staying" and "safety" no longer feel like the same thing.
As a trauma therapist and a Discernment Counselor, I bring both lenses — helping you understand not just what happened, but how betrayal or unresolved trauma may be shaping the decision itself.
1 in 3 divorcing individuals believed their marriage could still be saved with effort.
Even serious breaches like infidelity weren't associated with less openness to reconciliation. And every outcome — including divorce — can be a success. The goal is a decision you can stand behind, made with your eyes open, not one made in exhaustion or crisis.
A contained process with a clear end — and a direction you can trust.
A structured process, not more circling in the same argument
Individual time to be honest about where you really stand
A clear-eyed look at your part in the relationship’s struggles — for both of you
A decision you can trust, because it was made with clarity instead of panic
If you choose Path Three, a defined, agenda-driven commitment to couples work — not an open-ended “let’s see”
If you choose Path Two, guidance on next steps toward separation with care, including building a strong co-parenting relationship
Here are some of the most commonly asked questions we hear. If your questions aren’t answered, please contact us.
Whether you're navigating betrayal, high conflict, or trauma that's been holding you back for years — Dr. Cammy has helped thousands of people find their way through. You deserve the same.
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